I’m going to try to explain this in the best way I can to avoid misunderstandings. I am 18 and this guy is 28.
Two months ago, I met this guy on Grindr (I know), and immediately I told him I wasn’t the type of guy who hooks up and that rather I was looking for dates. He said he was the same way. After a week of talking, we finally decided to meet/go on our first date. Despite the age difference it was great, we met up at a coffee shop and sat down and talked, got to know each other, and went home. We went on several dates after that, haven’t had full on sex yet. We’ve just fooled around. We haven’t introduced each other to each other’s friends or family. The thing is, I’m really starting to like this guy. So much that I want things to get a little bit more serious like a commitment. The problem is whenever I even hint about something serious, he changes the subject, says nothing, or kisses me. It bothered me because he wouldn’t really respond. I’m not really one to waste someone’s time if we’re not wanting the same things. To this day, we haven’t had a conversation about what we’re seeing long term. I feel like if I do bring up those things too much, it’ll push him away. The age difference doesn’t bother me though. We’re both comfortable with each other to interact without it being odd. I quickly got over it. On the other hand, he constantly makes jokes about him being older. At first, I thought it was funny. But now, I’m starting to think he feels odd about it. Maybe I’m over thinking this.
Should I give him more time?
