[sweetcheeks]

Can someone tell me am I over reacting or do I have a point here? guy behaviour…?

The guy I like wanted me to tell him about something which had happened sometime ago. It was a personal to me and a long story. Even though telling him about it made me feel so uncomfortable, I decided that since he is asking I should tell him about it. So I made up my mind to tell him. However since it was getting late and the story was long, I told him I will tell him about it tomorrow. He agreed but immediately told me that he was busy tomorrow so to tell him day after tomorrow.

The thing is, this happened, I overheard him talking to one of his friend’s. He said that he was not going to come day after tomorrow. But he doesn’t know that I know about this. So now basically he has made plans with me for a day, knowing very well that he was not going to make it that day. I didn’t question him about it because I overheard his conversation and he might think I was eavesdropping.

So tomorrow comes, he is there all nice and all. Talks to me for hours but doesn’t inquire about the topic which he wanted to know. And day after tomorrow comes, and basically he doesn’t show up (obviously because he was not going to come)….he then texts me saying he cannot come. I mean who is he trying to fool here?
I very well knew that he made plans for a day when he very well knew that he was not gonna make it on that day. I just don’t understand why he did such a thing?

I mean he was so interested in talking about it and he refuses to meet on a day I opt for and he picks a day on which he has other plans and he doesn’t show up. I feel fooled and ridiculed … He did it deliberately??? I was hurt…I mean I am still hurt. I have done so much for him..I have treated him with royalty and this is what he does to me. I never replied to his text… how do I handle him next ??

if he forgot that if had other plans he could have jolly well told me the next day he came but he didn’t he did it on purpose?? I need some advice on this please

[Ask April Masini]

It isn’t important WHY he did what he did, but THAT he did it at all shows he doesn’t respect you. Why waste another minute on someone you’ve already invested in unwisely? 🙁 My advice is to thank your stars you learned this unfortunate lesson about him when you did and now you can start your life tomorrow without him in it! If you feel you need closure, just tell him you’re not interested in him any more and that’s it. No discussion. Just take control of your life, and make sure that the men you date are GOOD GUYS!! 😆

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[sweetcheeks]

So I met him today..he didn’t eve have the courtesy to explain things to me…I guess I am at fault to even expect these things from him…I guess I have to make a decision…even though it hurts..even though I have done so much for him, I helped him in many ways..to look at life in a positive way, to have faith in people (since he doesn’t trust any as he suffered a bitter breakup in the past), when he is down and off I try to make him smile and laugh and look at positive things in life…I guess he took me for granted and he thought it was my weakness that I was nice to him and that I liked him and treated him so well…
I just don’t believe he did this to me…at least have the courtesy to explain…I have all the time in the world to listen…

[Ask April Masini]

Please re-read my advice because it still stands. I guess you’re having trouble believing me the same way you’re having trouble believing him.

If you want to do charity and just give to people, then you’d be wise to give without expectation of any return. That’s true charity: giving with no strings attached. The truth is that what you wanted was NOT to be charitable, but to be in a relationship and have a mutual respect from which to build intimacy, romance and all the good things that people get into relationships for! The problem is you didn’t choose well. So stop blaming him for being this, that and the other thing or having a personal history that leads him to such and such a behavior. Instead, look in the mirror and decide how you can make YOUR life better by only allowing yourself to share time and energy with other people who meet your standards. If your standards are respect and polite manners, then stick to that and don’t let guys like this one in any more.

Your life is your own to live and create. Start today by looking only for good people to surround you. You’ll be a lot happier.

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[sweetcheeks]

I’m sorry April if I sounded like that. I appreciate your advice a lot…You are right, I must get a grip and move on..Thanks a lot once again for being there. It means a lot for me.

[Ask April Masini]

You’re welcome and I’m glad I could help.

Keep your eye on the ball and understand that this is just one of the dating experiences you have that help you get on the CORRECT path to finding Mr. Right. You can learn a lot from the wrong men or the men you thought were right and found out were wrong and they can be big clues as to what you should do next.

I wish you luck!! Let me know how things go. And please join me on Facebook. I’d love for you to be a member of AskApril.com on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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