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I went to this frat party and met this really cute and nice guy. He didn’t hit on any girls he was just with his friends in the corner drinking. He seemed really shy and respectful which I haven’t really experienced with any guy in the past. We talked and talked and kissed the whole night. He was kinda shy but since I’m really talkative and funny he was laughing the whole time and said he was hilarious. He said his family would be proud to see a girl like me as his girlfriend but he changed the subject really quickly since I felt he was a little too honest. He told me that I’m the most beautiful and sexy girl he had ever seen. He said that he enjoyed kissing me. I did too and I had a good time since I met a nice guy after a while. He got me an uber and water before I left and texted me his number.
I texted him the next day and thanked him for everything. He was even nice in the texts. He said that he would love to see me more around and we texted about our college work. Both of us were studying. I sent him a screenshot of a text by a guy who drunk texted me saying that he wanted to fuck me…(I know stupid). He said that its ridiculous and guys like him don’t have respect texting me that kind of stuff. I thanked him that he’s so nice and he said that I’m simply too sweet. I thought it couldn’t get better but he even texted me good night! This hasn’t happened to me in a really long time. He is shy but nice and I really like that. I know guys don’t text every day since i have a lot of guy friends. I wanted to ask him
“Are you ever gonna ask me out?” or “Do you wanna hangout sometime?”.
I don’t think that the guy has to ask you first, especially if he’s shy… Haha
Please help me about this situation since I don’t want to mess it up and there was real chemistry between us because we kissed all night and both us said that it was the best kissing ever in our lives.
Thanks

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, don’t send him any more screen shots of other guys texting you. It will give him the wrong idea. Especially if he’s shy. 😉

Second, I think you should let him be the one to ask you out, and the reason is that guys really feel good about themselves when they chase and win a girl over. When you ask him out, you take that opportunity away from him. In addition, if you do ask him out, go out, have a great time, and there’s no date forthcoming from him, you’re in a worse situation than now because now you’re asking yourself why he’s not asking you out after a good time at a frat party AND a good time on a date.

Third, this doesn’t mean you should do nothing. Flirt with him, which is the way he will know you’re interested, and you’re giving him something to chase after. You can figure out where he’s going to be and show up and flirt, but don’t chase him — let him be the one to do that.

Hope that helps! Let me know if you have any more questions.

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