[georgiapeach093001]

My boyfriend and I have been friends for almost a year and dating 3 months. We have a mutual friend (his best friend who is a girl). They are super close and never stop talking even to the point where he ignores me. He and I have gone on ONE official date but have hung out outside of class several times. however I am never invited when he and his friends hangout even though I am friends with multiple of them. Lately I have been noticing that he and his close girlfriend are hanging out a lot and flirting A LOT. In class and everywhere they are all over each other. Even though I was assured that nothing was going on between them, everyone always points out how they are always together and flirting. I can’t help but wonder if he likes her because it is obvious to EVERYONE that she likes him a lot. He hardly ever talks to me anymore, is rude to my friends, and spends way to much time with his girl friend. I want to break up with him but I can’t because I honestly still really like him and he is super sweet when he actually spends time with me, and if we broke up I feel like that is what the girl is trying to make happen an if we break up she will get the satisfaction of breaking us up and she will flirt non stop until she gets what she wants and I can’t bear to see them together… what do I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like he really does like this other woman, and since the two of you have only been on one date, there’s not really a relationship to break up. My advice is that although you like him, you should probably not refer to him as your boyfriend unless and until you’ve had a dozen or more dates together. This will help you gain some clarity on the relationship. He’s not really being a bad boyfriend. He’s just not interested in dating you. 😳 I know this is disappointing, but you’ll feel a lot better if you can think of him as someone you just had one date with, rather than a boyfriend who’s not treating you well. 😉

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