Okay, so here’s what’s going on: He is not interested in a commitment that leads to marriage. At least not now. And it sounds like that’s what you’re looking for. I know you like him, but it’s important that you be honest with yourself. He’s given you a neon, flashing, six foot warning that he’s going to be having sex with the mother of his child/ren — with whom he’s still having a relationship, and will have some type of relationship for the rest of his life because they have children together. He’s asking you if you’ll still see him if he’s seeing her, too. He couldn’t have been clearer with you. 😉 He’s also not calling you or contacting you as much as you’d like, or making you feel secure in the relationship because he’s not as into it or you as you are, him.
My advice is to be clear about what it is you want from someone you’re dating. If you’re looking for someone who wants to be married and raise a family with you, then be clear about that in your intention as well as your behavior. And keep in mind that the first three months of dating anyone are three months during which you BOTH decide if you want to continue seeing the person, so don’t try to rush things with him — instead, sit back and really pay attention to who he is, what he wants, what you want, and how you are or are not compatible. 😉
I hope that helps!
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