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Why does my boyfriend seem distant and unappreciative but when I talk to him about it he says that he is miserable and nothing makes him happy? There are times when he smiles and jokes around a little but over all I do agree that something is just not right. Especially now that he has confirmed that he is unhappy, I think that perhaps he needs some help or something? He says that he loves me and I know that we are really perfect for each other, in many ways, but he says when I ask that he began to feel like this around the time that we met. That makes no sense. He seemed to be so happy for the longest time in our relationship. He says that its not our relationship that makes him unhappy but just “everything”. What do you think is going on?

[Ask April Masini]

Whatever is going on it has to do with your boyfriend, and not you. It’s very hard to be with someone who is chronically depressed and/or who isn’t doing anything to help himself with his depression. I’m not sure how long you have been dating, but it seems odd that he would say he’s been depressed ever since he met you, but yet, continues to date you.

Regardless, I think you have to take him seriously, and when he says that your relationship is what makes him miserable and unhappy, you have to understand that this is not Mr. Right. While you may think you’re perfect together in so many ways, when a relationship makes one person miserable, those other ways don’t count.

It’s time for you to be with someone who is happy to be with you and you with him.

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