[Wasteoftime]

They guy i have been dating for 4 months now had his gf call me and break up with. She told me to leave her boyfriend alone. She said they have been dating for 3 weeks which is how long it had been since i last seen him. Im just wondering why he would do it like that? And have you ever heard of a guy doing this.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If he really did ask her to break up with you for him, you’re way better off without him! 😯 It’s a pretty cowardly thing for him to do. 😕 And it doesn’t indicate a good character or someone who’s going to be able to handle the tough things in life, directly, in the future.

But… he may know nothing about this. Don’t assume without talking to him directly that he was behind this. She may just be a drama queen and a trouble maker. So next time he calls you, talk to him about what happened and see if you can get a better idea of where things are with the two of you.

[Sally]

It’s such a cowardly way to end something. When a man makes his new girlfriend call you instead of talking to you himself, it usually means one thing he didn’t want to face what he did.

Guys do this when they’re juggling two women, lying to both, and then suddenly get caught. Instead of owning up, they hand the mess to whoever is louder or more demanding. It’s not about you being unworthy it’s about him not having the backbone to deal with his own choices.

And honestly, him disappearing for three weeks and then popping up with a new girl? That tells you everything you need to know. You didn’t lose someone good. You just found out who he really was before you got in too deep.
It hurts, but trust me you’re better off without that kind of chaos.

[Tara]

He didn’t “break up” with you, he outsourced it. He had his new girlfriend handle his mess for him because he’s too spineless to take responsibility for anything. This is not a man. This is a walking red flag with a pulse.

He didn’t call you himself because that would require honesty, courage, and a shred of basic decency, and he has none of those. He just hopped to a new girl, let her discover you, and then hid behind her like a child hiding behind his mother’s legs. Men like this don’t end things; they flee, then pretend the chaos they left behind isn’t their problem.

And yes, guys like this exist. They’re the ones who love attention, double-dipping, avoiding accountability, and letting women fight over the garbage they drop behind them. He got caught, and instead of facing what he did, he let his three-week girlfriend do the dirty work because she’s the one he’s committing to at the moment.

[Grace]

It is a bit cowardly to do something like that, but it’s also possible that the girl did it on her own and just made it seem like she was asked to do it. To be sure, just ask him directly when you get the chance to talk to him.

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