[secret345]

I’ve been seeing a guy for almost two years and things have been ‘ok’. When we first got together, he constantly talked to his ex and other women. Whenever I would question him, he completely denied it. Well as time went along, I found out that he was talking to his ex and other women, and he admitted that it’s nothing and he doesn’t want his ex back or the other women and it’s simply conversation. Well now we are currently in the present and from time to time I ask him about his female friends. He flat out stated that he DOES NOT talk to other women PERIOD!!!! Well one day, he forgot to log out his cell phone account and I came behind him to check my email. I know I should have closed his information out but I didn’t. I invaded his privacy and looked through his cell phone records and it showed that he is indeed talking to other women ( I called some numbers to see if they were women) AND he still communicates with his ex from time to time ( maybe once in a while through phone and text). How in the world do I confront him about his dishonesty when I found out he’s been lying but I found out through snooping?

[Anonymous]

well “yes” you should have closed his information…but now you have to ask yourself…are you ready for the possible consequences if you decide to confront him….He will try to turn it back on you and say that he can’t trust you because you snooped….but you can’t trust him because he lied….so my personal opinion would be to present him with the ? and ask him again and if he says NO…I don’t talk to other women not even my xxx …you have given him enough opportunities to come clean…but when you ask him again let him know that if he says that he has…you might be upset but yall can try to get past it …maybe this approach will let him know that he can come to you with anything..and maybe the both of you can start to rebuild your trust….only if he promises to leave all of that mess in the past… I pray that whatever you decide that you will have peace in the matter…because i was in a relationship with a man who cheated under my nose…lied repeatedly until I showed him the proof…I won’t disclose how I got it but I definitely did my homework b’cuz I didn’t want to continue to waste years being lied to……some men change and some don’t…so give it a try to see what the outcome will be…always know that you have to love yourself and know that whatever come of this that you have to look our for your best interest first 😆

Peace & Blessings

[secret345]

Thank you so much for the advice!!! Please know it was greatly appreciated and will be taken into consideration.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your boyfriend is a liar. Why are you worried about confronting him? Shouldn’t you be more worried about when you’re going to break up with him? 😯

Read Think & Date LIke A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], to find out why men lie and how to spot a liar. I’m sure you already know that liars don’t make good boyfriends, so my advice is to find a better boyfriend! 😉

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