Okay, so you’re 26 and he’s 27. You’ve been dating for 3 years and he’s been divorced for almost 3 years. You each have a child from a prior relationship, one is 4 and one 8. Thanks for that info. Here’s my advice:
1. Go to the police and report the rape. Don’t delay.
2. Do not post details of the alleged crime on social media. It’s a police matter and something you and your family and friends need to help you through.
3. It sounds like your boyfriend is insisting you take to social media and blame yourself publicly to protect his ego. If you’re trying to hold together a relationship with someone who’s so insecure that he’s insisting on this public display of blame, you’re in an unhealthy relationship. Someone who is healthy will want to work things through with you — not put you on display in a negative way. Your boyfriend isn’t behaving in a way that is healthy.
4. Because you have a four year old, you have to put your health and the child’s life first. Saying that breaking up with this guy is not an option isn’t the best thing for your child, you or your boyfriend. Time for you to man up! 😉
5. Lastly, remember that you got together before your boyfriend divorced and it’s very possible you were his rebound relationship and the fact that you both cheated was a flashing yellow light that there relationship problems that caused the cheating. Cheating isn’t usually the problem — what led up to it that created an atmosphere for it, is what you should be focusing on.
I hope that helps.
