[tlynn26]

My ex fiance broke up with me after we lost our baby. He has been persistent of saying he moved on etc. Well he had one of his friends messaging me asking if I am in relationships with others and today he told me he still loved me and hasn’t moved on. And doesn’t want me to move on from him.. What should I do?
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[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m very sorry for the loss of your baby. These things are difficult for the fathers as well as the mothers. It makes sense that he might be all over the map, emotionally, after the death of his child. Since I don’t know much about you or your relationship (ages, how long you’ve been together, broken up, what the relationship was like, etc.), my advice is to at least sit down and have coffee with your ex. Processing the death of a child is important and tough and whether you get back together or simply talk over a drink, the connection is important. I don’t think you have a lot to lose if you keep your expectations low and your heart open.

[tlynn26]

I am 26 and he is 24 our relationship was good for the most part.. We was together for almost a year and a half.

[tlynn26]

He told me today that he missed me and loved me just DK how to respond to that yes I still love him and yes I miss him but the doctors told me the chance of this happening again with having a child is high risk. I don’t really know if this happened again if he would stay around or leave like last time…. We agreed to have coffee this afternoon but idk what to do because every time I see him or here is voice I loose my voice of reasoning

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should see him and lower your expectations. Just be together. There doesn’t have to be any kind of resolution. You both need to grieve and you both reacted in different ways. You don’t have to think about getting back together or not getting back together. You don’t have to think about having another baby or getting married. Just go for a walk together. Have coffee. And don’t talk about the future. Even if you just sit quietly together you’ll have some healing time.

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