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Ive been dating a girl for 3 weeks now. things were going good at first. we love being around each other, touching each other kissing and everything. We slept together on our 4th date. Now though she says contradicting things. We went to a sex shop and she had me pick out a dildo, nipple clamps and a ring for my you know what. Then she says she doesnt want to have sex bc she doesnt want to seem like a horn dog. She buys me a new phone, then gets annoyed that im always texting her. She says she wants to be open, then gets mad when i ask about her previous relationships. Im confused. i trust her, and i know from her friends and family that she is committed to me, but i dont get where her head is at.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Dating is a [i]process[/i]. Having had three weeks of good dates – or even great dates, doesn’t mean anything is a done deal, or on the other hand, that it’s game over. But the important thing to remember is that this is a process and you’re using the first three months of dating someone to decide if you want to continue dating them. What happened is that you got an idea in your head of who she is based on the first three weeks of dating, and now you’re getting new information about her, early in the dating process, that is causing you to rethink who she is. This is normal. Everyone is on company behavior at first. Ever have house guests? You’re all on great behavior and if anyone walked in during the first 48 hours they’d think you’re all fabulous friends. Two weeks later? War zone. So reserve judgment on her, and don’t jump the gun by thinking you’re in love in three weeks. Instead, get to know who she is, what motivates her to do what you like and what you don’t like, and at the end of three months decide whether or not to continue dating her. 😉

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