[dreamer13]

i have strong feelings for a coworker and he knows it. we have been messing around on and off for a yr now. when we started he had a gf(now fiance) it seemed like they would break up then a month later she found out she was having his baby. thinking this would end what we had, but it didnt he kept at his flirting and i kept falling for it and giving in. now i have strong feelings and i dont want to loose him. he knows i like him alot and something is better then nothing. problem is he doesnt say how he feels, if i say “oh u miss me too, huh” hes like u no i do he never really says it..with past txts from him and messages and stuff he says like he really likes me, misses me..but i dont no what to believe, my friends say he uses me which i know but i do know he likes me and just may be in a hard situation..he always talks bad about marriage..his gf knows about me and caught him a few times. i just dont know if hes riding this relationship out..so confused

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You’re not confused — you’re disappointed. 😳 You’re not going to lose him, but you’re not going to get more than you have now, meaning, he’s not going to give up his fiance and she seems to know about you, but this doesn’t seem to bother him very much. His feelings aren’t what is important here — it’s his behavior. Whether or not he loves you or his fiance, he’s keeping both of you and you both know about each other and are going along with the situation.

I hope that helps clear up any confusion. If you have any specific questions, I’m happy to answer them for you.

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[dreamer13]

idk if this will help but hes 23 and was married before then divorced when he got out of the army a few yrs ago. he always seems to keep coming back to me, he’d stop talking to me and “try to be good” but that would only last at most a month. i try to talk to him and see why he does this and if hes really into me or if its just a game, but its hard cuz we can only talk at work (when she caught him with txts and fb messages, he got rid of both) and he can never go out without her, she has to go everywhere with him. do you think he will ever tell me the truth, or just what he knows i want to hear? and do you think that realationship will last? thanks so much

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

[quote]do you think he will ever tell me the truth, or just what he knows i want to hear? and do you think that realationship will last?[/quote]

I’m not sure what you mean when you ask if he’ll ever tell you the truth. It doesn’t sound like, from you wrote, that he’s lying to you. So I don’t understand why you think he isn’t being truthful.

Also, It sounds like you know exactly what’s going on. And I don’t think he’s telling you what you want to hear, obviously, or else you’d be a lot happier! But he is telling you what he needs to tell you so that you’ll keep seeing him. He’s keeping you in the game, and you’re buying into the game. 😳

As for your question about whether or not the relationship will last, I don’t know if you mean his relationship with his fiance or his relationship with you. Frankly, it sounds like his relationship with his fiance will last in some form because they’re going to have a child. Children bond the parents together forever. Not always in a good way, but it is a bond. And as for your relationship with him, I think it’s going to continue as it is unless you change your behavior. Or unless he changes his.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. And please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]

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