Maturity means not acting on every feeling you have. Think about it. Two year olds are very hard to live with and have earned their title, The Terrible Twos, because they act on every feeling they have making it impossible for their families not to pray for them to age and mature. Now, just because you, at whatever ripe old age you’re at, have a feeling, does not mean you act on it. I mean, think about all the feelings you have during the day that you automatically suppress because they’re just not appropriate. You don’t tell the lady at the bus stop that her teal dress makes her look like something that belongs in Sea World — in a tank. And you don’t get our of your car and berate the teenager who ran the stop sign and gave you the finger because his parents raised him poorly. You’re socialized and you promote order in your own life and your community.
That’s a round about way of saying that if you think your ex-boyfriend is sexy and you know he wants a fling, you preserve your marriage of 19 years instead because acting on your sexual desires may be fun for an hour, but you will probably ruin a marriage and a future with a good man because you want to act on a feeling. So, don’t do it. Trust me — your husband is turned on by women who are not you during the days, weeks, months and years that he is married to you, but that doesn’t mean he has sex with them. He stays loyal. Now, it’s your turn.
Don’t buy in to your ex-boyfriend’s invitation to an affair — because that’s what he’s proposing whether or not you realize it. YOU take the high road and either invite him and his wife out to dinner with you and your husband or else tell your ex-boyfriend that you’re sorry, but you love your husband too much to disrespect him by entertaining a fling down memory lane.
I hope that helps.
