[Anonymous]

I’m a college senior and recently split with girlfriend of 3 years. She mentioned her career and my friends being the only friends she really had as major reasons (she’s an ultra-driven-type/engineer), but also that I was “too good of a boyfriend” compared to how she saw herself as a girlfriend. I chalked that up to immaturity, because honestly, that makes little sense to me as a male (who doesn’t want too much of a good thing?). Am I off-base in that regard? All in all, I am far removed from the situation in terms of getting over it, nevertheless, I always found that curious. Any input would be much appreciated, thanks a lot.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There are lots of ways people break up and things they say in doing so. The important thing is that they do what they intended to do. Your ex-girlfriend told you that you were “too good of a boyfriend” in order to make you feel better about her leaving you. She wanted you to think it wasn’t your fault, and that she was not good enough to appreciate a man who was “too good”. Don’t dwell on it. She may or may not have meant it. Instead, focus on yourself and what you want next in life — and go for it!

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