Hello April, I am struggling with my boyfriend Ive been dating for about six months. He’s an extreme narcissist who is all about him self. hes always right, im always wrong, when i try and make a point that i could be right than im ” Arguing” and i always have to be right, when clearly i never am. He ALWAYS talks about himself, i could probably write you a book about his life story and he can barely tell you where i was born, the names of my family members, or even my birthday. When we get home from work, he will talk about his day for the rest of the night, without even asking me once how my day was. I know it all sounds bad, but there is good too, we are like two little kids that have been best friends since elementary school, our sense of humor is identical, we can totally be ourselves around each other, and we are so comfortable with each other. but we also argue ALOT, did i mention were both cancers. He also has problems with my intimacy, i hug him, touch him and kiss him all the time, and he gets irritated if i touch him or kiss him too much?!! and that’s not in public that’s at home. its super frustrating, because it makes me feel, unwanted, not good enough, not important to him, and actually makes me feel stupid a lot, which i know im not, im majoring in community psychology and counseling, im actually quite smart. and he has be downgrading myself. i don’t like that feeling. Also he has broken up with me uncountable amounts of times since we’ve been dating, he seriously is very happy alone, but i always remind him of the good stuff, and it outweighs the bad. and he stays. but like we’ll get in an argument and be breaking up, and ill sit in the other room, while he watching America’s funniest home videos and laughs his ass off?! that’s not normal. i could go on with many other examples, but im sure your getting the point. My question is, will this ever change? should i have hope that he will start to care? and not make me feel so low? or is it my turn to break up, because i feel like i deserve more ? I dont know, it just hurts, because i’ve honestly never been with someone that im so comfortable with before, and who is so much like me, like i feel like i wont ever be able to find that anywhere else.
