[STB8862]

This feels so stupid, but it’s worth asking. So this is from Twitter of all things. I’m a guy. Did not get on Twitter to meet women but rather I post political views, etc. So I build followers, etc…as time goes on, there’s this one woman who I end up flirting back and forth with, each of us in a very subtle way but that’s what it is. Intentionally never use the word friend, but we definitely build rapport. Maybe a month ago she sends out a good morning tweet and tags 6 people including me. Later she sends out one of favorite people, again to about 6 people including me. I later send a few just aimed at her, not private messages (dm’s) but just to her. She clearly likes them. We’ve never sent private messages or anything else (phone calls, etc) just regular tweets for all to see. Additional fact: if this were to develop she’s half way across the country, so not exactly an easy task, just logistically. Nevertheless–you never know, I’m a hopeless romantic, and she seems like a wonderful woman, so far–so I figure, I’ll keep building rapport and maybe in the not too distant future–in a couple of months perhaps she might agree to meet me. Or not, but at least worth pursuing. So just the other day, I check in on her timeline, and see a conversation she had with a couple other guys. First she tells them that Twitter would not be the same without the two of them. A minor blow, but fine, she’s been very nice to me also. Well the conversation goes on, and she literally proceeds to tell one of them, that he will have to come visit her–she does so in a light manner, but she obviously means it. The very thing I was hoping for, which seemed like a possibility, but a long shot, and she’s asking someone else–it was like getting kicked in the gut, hard.Very hard. Additionally if she’s asking him, that rather seems to me like a huge gate just closed–like that’s it, end of story for me. So just about every day, I’ll send out a tweet that tags (specifically includes) up to 10 people, and of course she’s Always included. These are on various current events, etc. Well the day after that, I sent stuff out, but did Not include her. Maybe the next day as well. That perhaps got her attention, because she got on my timeline and did a favor, comment, and retweet of one of my tweets. I did not respond to her comment, etc. I’m going to continue to send out things that don’t include her. Eventually she’ll undoubtedly inquire. So now, we’re up to date, and to my question–how to proceed. I really just don’t know–I could, of course just drop and forget about her, literally end of story–she’s worth pursuing, but she’s actually inviting this other guy over–sure hasn’t done that with me–but it also appears she’s known him longer. In any case, that’s the easy solution, but I’m not one to just give up, still it obviously doesn’t look promising. Second option: I could continue along this path, she Will eventually ask–and then I’ll tell her…I think the World of her, would like to just see what might happen, but saw what she said, and though unintentional, it was very hurtful, and Real hard now to see moving forward. Don’t know what she’d say to that–guessing that wouldn’t be good–but it would be true. Which brings me to the third option. Pretend I never saw it, say nothing about it, fight for her attention, and continue to try and build rapport and hope she extends the same invitation to me. But it would be So hard to just ignore and not say anything about her inviting him over–just makes me sick. So there it is, all of it. Through a computer and long distance it’s just so different, and I’m really at a loss–easy and smart perhaps to just forget it, but maybe worse to never know. Sure would appreciate as much help as can be provided. I’ve never found the right one–may or may not be her, but…just don’t know. Thanks again for any help.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

[STB8862]

Thank you Very much for replying–if this Actually works out–I’ll appreciate you forever. Though I’m not incredibly hopeful as I once was, but we’ll see.
In any case–I’m 53. By the way, the other fellow is about the same age. Her age–I don’t know, but educated guess–26-32. She’s a business owner. Her conversational attitude is somewhat playful, yet mature–and her avatar picture puts her in that range, but that could very likely not even be her. But I’d feel fairly comfortable putting her in that age range.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Got it. Thanks!

So here’s the deal — you’re a 53 year old guy who met a woman on Twitter, and now all that’s left for you to do is to ask her out on a date. Since you haven’t really established a rapport with her one on one beyond the internet, you should ask her if you can call her on the phone. Do this, obviously, in a private message, not in a public one. 😉

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