[ConfusionElusion]

Why hasn’t he asked me out yet or mentions he is likes me, even though he seems interested? Does LDR have anything to do with it? We are both in college 🙂

When we first “knew” each other, I was really good friends with his sister, but his previous undeclared girlfriend was trying her hardest to convince him I was an evil person, although I was just shy (I also did have a crush on him at the time, though I didn’t say anything about it). Maybe she was being territorial? So we never talked or hung out until after the “girlfriend” moved away to another state. I have been good friends with his sister for about four years now, and am well liked by his parents. His family, however, recently moved out of state, all kids with them. Over summer, I briefly visited the family and got reintroduced to “my guy”, and we got to actually know each other and became really close.

Ever since then, for the last few months, we have been great friends, talking nearly every night over Skype, teasing each other back and forth, and always there for one another no matter the situation. He sometimes mentions wishing he could “hug me for comfort”, “feeling scared” that I had been in a certain situation, and missing “the companionable silence” we used to have.

Although my friends are CONVINCED that he likes me, he has never told me that to my face or even attempted to ask me out.

Does he like me at all, or is this a girlish fantasy?

(Please forgive any grammatical mistakes; English is not my best subject)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re in the friend zone. 😕 To get out of the friend zone, you have to stop acting like a friend. That means that unless he asks you out on a date, and actually dates you, you shouldn’t be that available to him. When you talk to him every night, you’re not giving him the chance to miss you and ask you out. So limit your contact and act lie a girlfriend, not a friend. 😉

As for the long distance, since you’re both 18, according to your pre-posting questionnaire, it’s difficult to have the funds and resources to fly back and forth to see each other, so if he wants to date in real life, and you’re not there for a Saturday night date, he may not see you as someone who fulfills his dating needs for now.

Bottom line, my advice is to play the field, be available to date him — but don’t be his friend.

I hope that helps!

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