[James148]

Hello,

So,the situation goes like this.An ex-girlfriend of mine reached out to me last week telling me she was thinking about me and that we should go out sometime.I agreed so we made plans to go out last Thursday.She was the one initiating this whole ordeal and I am also still into her so I agreed.

So,we meet up and go for a drink.She was pretty flirtatious throughout the whole date (we were teasing each other,she was leaning on to me,hugging me etc.) however I didn’t seal the deal with a kiss,stupid of me I know.So after a couple of hours on the date she had to go,so we went to the bus stop so she could take the bus.The bus came instantly and the goodbye was really fast.We kissed on the cheek like right next to the mouth and she told me she was really happy to see me again.

I went home and texted her about a topic we had in our conversation and we sent a couple of texts back and forth,but nothing significant.I let a day pass and yesterday I text her to set up another date.Her replies were much sorter and colder,whereas before the date they were pretty warm.This kind of bugged me to be honest.So I went to the point immediately and asked her if she would like to go out again these following days.Her response went like this : (Yeah,but after Wednesday because my schedule up to then is full).I told her great,let me know when you can and she said sure.

Now,I know the only thing I can do now is wait for her to reach out to me again so we can set up the date details however she was too vague about when.Also,the fact that her responses after our date were different than before makes me think she may have lost interest.What do you think?Did I blow it off by not kissing her on the first date?Also,what should my moves be from now on?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think that if you want to date her, then you have to let her know — beyond what you’re doing now. She’s the one who asked you out. Now, she’s cooled. The ball is totally in your court. Send her flowers. Call her and ask her to go to dinner on Saturday. Take the lead! 😉 Make her feel special and desired so she’ll want to go out. 😎

[James148]

Thank you for replying.

Now,I have already asked her out on a second date and she told me sure but she will be busy these following days.I told her to get in touch when she will be available which she agreed to.Shouldn’t I wait for her to get in touch like we agreed?I don’t want to come off as needy or desperate,my proposal already lies on the table for her.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No.

Ideally, you would have said, “Great. Let’s make it Saturday night. 8:00. I’ll pick you up.” By telling her to give you a call, you made it look like you’re not that interested. 😕 If you want to date her, you have to act like you want to date her. 😉

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