Yes, you came on too strong and no, you can’t fix it the way you want. Attraction ended the moment she felt your need for validation outweigh her sense of freedom. You confused emotional intensity with emotional connection.
You had momentum: scarcity, chemistry, mystery. Then you destroyed it by demanding reassurance. Every text asking how she feels was a report she didn’t owe you. You made yourself predictable, and predictable isn’t attractive.
The orchids were thoughtful but premature. You rewarded inconsistency with devotion. That told her she didn’t have to invest to keep your attention.
What’s left now isn’t romance, it’s damage control. No contact isn’t a tactic, it’s recovery. You can’t chase her back into interest. You can only create silence long enough for her to question whether she misjudged your value.
Stop pretending to give her space. Actually take it. Don’t text, don’t watch her stories, don’t respond to snaps. Control the one thing you still can: yourself. If she comes back, fine. If she doesn’t, better. Either way, you get back the only leverage that matters indifference.
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