[Blondie93]

So I’ve been seeing this guy for a little over a month
Now , we would hang out pretty much every weekend and I
Usually always sleep over at his house , we also ready slept
With each other .. Within 3 weeks of us hanging out I asked him
What we were and if he was interested in dating , we both agreed to it..
I made the stupid stupid mistake of changing my relationship status
Literally only after a month of us dating … I told him I mainly did
It to get creeps to leave me alone on Facebook . Anyways as soon as he
Saw I changed my status he got pretty upset and said “I’ve been thinking a lot
And I want my next relationship to last a long time , and I feel like we kind of jumped
Into it .. I just want to make sure it’s real before making it
Official and legit, can we just be friends for now ? ” I’m honestly so embarrSsed and now
Feel like things are awkward , did I ruin it for good ? I’m ok with us
Being friends for now but id like it to eventually turn into a relationship ..

Also I hate how it feels like I’m always the one to message him first and
Ask to hang out . Also just last night we were gonna hang out but then he said he was
Gonna party for his friends b day. He hasn’t told his friends about me and never invites me
Out with them.. I’ve met his friends once that’s it . I wanna fix this.. I don’t want to be the one chasing him ..
I want him to chase me !

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want him to chase you, which is a good instinct, then you have to stop chasing him! 😉

Don’t be the first one to text him. Don’t “hang out” and stay overnight at his house. Only go out with him if he asks you on a date. And don’t ever press a guy for a definition of the relationship. If you have to ask, you know what it is, and just don’t like it. 😥 If you want to know where you stand with a guy, assess his behavior towards you, but don’t ask him. 😉 I think that if you make these changes in your own behavior, you’ll find more success with guys — whether it’s this one, or some other one. 😀

I hope that helps.

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