So, you’re 44 and he’s 34 — I don’t see the problem. You’re divorced. He’s single. Am I missing something here? ❓ ❓ Okay, so you met him at work, but that’s not a negative. It makes perfect sense that people meet at work — especially singles! You probably spend more time in your office than you do asleep in your bed at night! And since you’re a single mother, you have less time to find people to date, than singles without kids. So get over the idea that dating someone at work is a bad thing. As long as it doesn’t interfere with your work, and there aren’t work favors being exchanged for sexual or social ones, and you tend to keep the relationship on the down low, rather than flaunt it by making out at the water cooler, I’m not opposed to office romance.
Now, for you next issue with this guy: He never comes around when your children are around. Well, that could mean that he is just into the sex and not the relationship with a future aspect of things, but it could also mean that it’s too soon for you to be introducing him to your kids, and he’s aware of that, even if you aren’t. It’s a great idea to be prudent about introducing people you’re dating to young kids. They shouldn’t have to go through your dating ups and downs, and your home shouldn’t have a revolving door of dates, so I don’t think it’s wrong for him to not want to meet your kids just yet.
The thing that’s important here is for you to focus on what you want. 😉 If you’re looking for a long-term, committed, monogamous relationship, then you should focus on that. But if you’re simply looking for fun and sex, that’s okay, too — just don’t confuse your goals with one another. It sounds like the sex in your marriage wasn’t so great, and this sex is, so as long as you’re okay with his going slowly towards a longterm goal, or not having that goal at all, you should enjoy the opportunity to be a 44 year old divorced woman who’s holding a great job, doing a great job with her kids, taking care of her body, and enjoying a healthy sex life with an interesting guy who has some great qualities. Just decide what you want and be conscious of your decisions.
[b]Everyone likes to be liked! If the advice you found on AskApril.com was helpful “like” us on FB — and tell a friend!
[url][/url]
And… you can follow my interviews and advice in the press on Twitter [i]@AskAprilcom[/i][/b]
