[MA10]

Ok so my boyfriend that I had been dating for 1 year recently ended things about 2 weeks ago. Our relationship was great except for the constant stupid arguments which would ruin all of the good times. There were so many times where we almost ended things but I would promise to not nag and create stupid arguments and we would give the relationship another shot. I never took these chances seriously and he finally got to the point where he was too hurt to try any longer. He ended things over text. We had to see each other after the breakup for a problem we had to deal with and I begged for another chance which just angered him. I’ve asked him how he’s doing and it hurt when he said he was happy. He now says he can’t talk to me because it is too hard. I have to see him this weekend and I’m hoping that maybe the space has made him miss us and want to give it another chance. It’s so hard since our problems could have been resolved! Also now I think his ex of three years is trying to get him back which worries me since she ended things with him and maybe he still has feelings for her. Do I have any chance of getting him back? Is there anything I can do when I see him this weekend that will get him to give us another chance?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No. He’s done and he’s moved on. If you were arguing pretty frequently during the entire year you were together, it’s understandable that one or both of you would move on to try and find a relationship where there isn’t that kind of arguing. I know you want him back, but being in a relationship where you’re arguing that frequently isn’t healthy or pleasant. You’ll do better if you find someone with whom you don’t argue. It sounds like there were more than a few compatibility issues that led to the arguing and this is a great time to really think about what went wrong and why — so you can choose someone who’s more compatible next time around.

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