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Do I let my boyfriend support me financially?

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    Biibii
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    I’ve just finished my degree, but I’m having problems finding a job. So far I’m working an unstable part time retail job that I hate with horrible hours. My apartment i lovely, but I have an exhausting landlord who is somewhat unstable and who has snooped around in my things while I was out of town (he’s not dangerous, just tiresome and rude). With other words, this is not how I thought my life would be at this point.

    The best thing in my life right now, is my boyfriend. He lives across the country and we have made plans to move in together. He owns a house, so we have also agreed that it makes more sense for me to move when the time comes. Now he thinks that we are ready to live together. The problem is that it might be quite a while before I find a job, the job market being what it is. I’m worried that he’s going to resent having to take care of me down the line or that he’ll get sick of living with me. On one hand I do know that he loves me. As soon as I have the slightest solveable problem, he’s all over it without my even asking him for help, and he would give me the shirt right off his back if need be 🙂 So I guess it wasn’t that big a shock when he said he wants to support me until I find work. On the other hands, I have these worries.

    My parents marriage was an absolute horror movie and my mother always kept telling me for as long as I can

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    Ask April Masini
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    It’s understandable that you think your boyfriend would resent having to take care of you financially if it takes you a long time to find a job, but if you’re honest with him about your predicament and the time frame, you have to understand and accept that he is an adult who makes his own decisions — as are you.

    Maybe your guilt will make you work harder to find a job, and that will make you (and him) feel better! 😀

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