[dazed_confused]

There’s a boy I like and we’ve been checking eachother out since we were kids, we’ve been talking for a few months now but he hasn’t made any effort to ask me on a real date, the closest we got was when we hung out with his friends and his brother at his firends house. Awhile ago he asks if we can shower together but I don’t want to do that because we’re not dating and he shows no sign of him wanting to. What do you think? what should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, how old are the two of you?

Second of all, don’t shower with him — it’s entirely inappropriate. You’re not dating. You’re not in a relationship. Take your own shower. And he can take his own shower. Separately.

Let me know your ages, and I’ll advise you further.

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[dazed_confused]

Ok. We’re both 18

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Okay, got it. Thanks for filling me in. If you like him and are interested in him romantically, the way to let him know is to flirt with him. But… you have to remember that 18 year old guys are very interested in sex, and you don’t want to be just a sex toy — so don’t shower with him — wait until he asks you out on a date (hiking, bowling, movies, ice cream, burgers, etc.) to spend time with him. The trick to getting a guy to chase you is to give him something to chase! Flirting plays a big part in this. Not being too available also plays a part. And if you value yourself, he’ll value you, too. 😀

I hope this helps. Let me know how it goes, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[dazed_confused]

Ok. I understand thank you 😀 and I’ll definitely keep you posted on the outcome.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome! 😀

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[dazed_confused]

Now I can’t figure out a way to tell him the shower isn’t happening but still keep his interest and we’re meeting up this Saturday

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Easy: Tell him, “I’m looking forward to seeing you Saturday, but I don’t want you to get the wrong idea. I’m definitely not going to be showering with you!”

That’ll work. 🙂

If he’s really interested in you, then he’ll want to see you no matter what. But if he’s just looking for sex, then he’ll cancel the date. It’s important for you to know where he stands. Remember: Men have sex because they can. End of story. 😉

[dazed_confused]

hahahaha ok 😆 but he’s so persistent he always brings it up when we’re texting 😡

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well, he’s going to do what he’s going to do — but the the really important point is here is that YOU get to make choices every day in how you conduct your life. 🙂 You can yes. You can say no. You can say whatever you want. My advice is that you realize he’s not really interested in you as a whole person if he keeps bringing up showering with you. He’s just interested in a sexual experience and if you’re willing, he’s going to take advantage of the situation.

You can a lot better than this guy. 😉

[dazed_confused]

You’re right and I’ve decided to cut him off and I’m over it so thnk you 😀

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome! 😀

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