[Danna Clarisse]

Hi April,
I’ve been seeing this guy I really like. Things have been going really well. We go on fun dates, talk a lot and I feel a connection with him and I think he does too. Btw, I’m 18 year old.

Lately, I’ve been thinking if I’m ready to sleep with him but I’m not sure how to decide the “right” time. I don’t want to rush anything but I also don’t want to wait forever if it feels right. I keep hearing all these different opinions from friends. Some say wait a few months, some say wait until you’re exclusive and others say just go with your gut. So that I’ve became too curious if what do I do. If what;s my choice.

My question is: how do you know when it’s the right time? Is there even a number of dates or is it really just about how you feel and trust the person?
Thanks for any advice!

[Smara]

Your friends are right: If you haven’t asked him, “What are we?” and you’ve decided to move on, be prepared to post an “It’s complicated” status later. Men often don’t commit until they have to. Check to see if he’s just into fun dates or if he’s thinking about the future?
I don’t think the number of dates matters; safety, trust, and respect do. If you’re having to “ask” when is the right time, trust me, it’s not yet. When the time comes, the questions will be over.
Enjoy a few more “fun dates” for now, the guy isn’t running away!

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