Hello! By the way, I’m Hannah, 34, and my husband Stephen is 31, I’m older than him. I’ve been with my husband for about 6 years and now I feel a little unheard. We talk a lot, yes, but sometimes when I bring up something important to me it feels like he is just nodding along but I feel that he doesn’t understand what I’m saying. For example, I’ll share something that’s been bothering me and he will say “oh really?” but then nothing changes and he doesn’t look like he understand me.
It’s starting to make me question whether he’s actually listening or just hearing me. I don’t expect him to fix everything but I want to feel understood and like what I say matters. I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this. I feel like he’s no longer interested in me or in the things going on in my life. Maybe his love for me has already faded and he now just sees me as someone he lives with. He might not be attracted to me anymore since we have been living together for a long time, maybe he’s getting tired of my thoughts and stories about life.
How can you tell if your partner is truly listening to you? And how you bring it up but not sound like you’re criticizing him?
Thanks.
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