[Josh]

Hey, my name is Josh, I’m 31, and I’ve been thinking a lot about my past relationships lately. I had a couple of serious ones over the years and for different reasons, they all ended.
A frequent problem is that even a simple conversation ends up turning into arguments over very small things. That’s why now I’ve learned how to handle those situations better. I’ve become more patient and more understanding.
I don’t wanna keep making the same mistakes, especially if I’m part of why things didn’t work out. But at the same time, I know relationships have two people, so it’s hard to tell what’s really on me vs what just wasn’t the right fit.
I guess I’m trying to understand, why do relationships usually fail? And how do you look at your past honestly without being too hard on yourself but still actually learn from it?
Thanks.

[Smara]

You’re saying that your arguments used to be over small things. Listen, fights over trivial matters only happen when there’s a much bigger underlying issue or when you have an obsession with “winning” every single match. This patience he claims to have is only in his words for now; the real test will be the moment someone pinches his ego again.
At this age, when a man says I have learned, it often means, I don’t dare to fight anymore; someone just needs to adjust now.
Anyway, the line Relationships have two people is only said by those who admit their mistake but immediately divide it 50% so that the burden of conscience is light. That is, half the mistake is mine, half is yours!

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