[averysmith456]

There is this guy who i have been friends with for a long time and recently i’ve developed a crush on him. My friends approached me the other day and told me they think he likes me the only thing is I don’t see it. I am awful as determining if someone is flirting with me or not and usually find out too late. This guy is the typical class clown who is never serious and always jokes around. He teases me in a playful kind of way which i know is supposed to be a big sign he likes me but i think that is just his personality. Some things that have gotten me curious are the fact that recently he has started a couple of relatively serious conversations with me when we are alone not about anything big but like he seems genuinely interested in my problems another thing is that whenever i’m talking to him he looks me directly in the eyes to a point where i kind of get uncomfortable. Lastly this one is kind of silly but if me and him and some others are all sitting around he will somehow find his way next to me but sometimes he doesn’t even say anything to me once he gets there. I don’t know if he is just being a friend or if he likes me as more. The only time we hang out alone is during school whenever we go out and do things its in a group so i just don’t know… please help. Thanks!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He definitely likes you — but he needs some encouragement from you! High school boys need a confidence boost in order to feel like they might get a yes if they ask you out. If he thinks you like him, he’ll make it more clear about the way he feels. Flirt with him by giving him a great smile, laughing at all his jokes, and complimenting him. You have to give him something to chase after and win over. 😎

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[averysmith456]

Alright thanks thats good to know but now drama comes in of course… whats a good relationship without drama?! 😐
So my BEST friend likes this guy openly. She is the only one of my friends who i haven’t told i like him and she has a bunch of problems in general and this guy obviously doesn’t like her in that way but she just really really likes him. Now I knew there was no potential for me and him i wouldn’t even worry about this but the fact that he probably likes me and there is a small potential he could ask me out leaves me with a huge problem on my hands as i can’t hurt my friend but i really like him too i’d just rather see her happy than tell her that i like him as well.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure what your question is.

[averysmith456]

Well my question in short is should i pursue the relationship even if it were to hurt my friend? I know the obvious answer to this is no but I really like him so i just don’t know how to approach the situation.

[singhamit9872]

Well it seems to me that he really likes you. And I agree with the person above that he needs a little bit of encouragement. Give him some signs that you also like him whenever you meet him next. Try to know more about him. It will give him a little confidence and may be he ll ask you out.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you and your friend are really good friends, then you should probably let her know that you both like the same guy. Otherwise, it’s not really a friendship. Friends, especially good friends, are honest with each other. But I think what you’re afraid of is that there is competition in romance, and that means someone wins and someone loses, and if you let your friend know that the two of you are now competitors for the same guy, one of you may lose — and you’re afraid that will threaten the friendship.

You have to understand that all is fair in love and war, and if he likes one of you and not the other, it doesn’t mean that either you or your girlfriend did anything wrong. Not every guy is going to like you or her and not every guy who likes you or her is going to have that feeling reciprocated. Who we like, love, date and marry isn’t fair — but that’s how relationships work.

Time to explore how deep your friendship with this other girl really is. 😉

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