[brad1997]

there is this guy and honestly I feel for him when I first meet him but I didn’t give it thought bc I had a boyfriend and I was going to be faithful and me and the bf had problems and the other guy was always there to make sure I was okay and to make me laugh. I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend bc of something.This pass year the other boy told me he had feel for me the first time he meet me and he really thought I was his one. Which got me thinking and I started accepting that I had feelings for him we started talking and then he moved and we would still talk on and off and he would still tell me he cared for me. Today me and the other guy was talking and I did the mistake of asking him if a girl there had stole his heart yet and he said maybe Idk and he told me he liked a girl and everything sent me a picture of her and I said she was pretty and that’s good for him then he asked if I was sure about that and I was up front and asked him what does he want me to say that it hurts some or that I’m happy for him. He said he didn’t love her just liked her. So I decided to get even and tell him about this guy that has been asking me out that I’m thinking about saying yes and did the same thing sent a picture and he seem to get upset about it and quit talking to me some. So what do you think of that.

[Clara]

Fill me in a little! 🙂

How old are you and these guys? Have you met these guys in person? Or just online?

[brad1997]

I am 18 and yes I have met them met them

[brad1997]

What all do you need to know to help more. I realize I wasn’t as clear as I should have been lol

[Clara]

Go it — thank you for the extra information.

It sounds like you liked this guy, and then you asked him if he liked any other women, and he was honest with you and told you. His answer hurt your feelings, and you probably would have been better off if you hadn’t asked him, right? Because you were hurt, you lashed out and decided “to get even” by telling him about a guy you liked — but that backfired because now he thinks you’re not really interested in him, and he’s moved on and stopped talking to you. 🙁

If you like a guy, then flirt with him, get to know — but if you’re someone who gets jealous easily, don’t create drama (which means asking questions where you can’t handle the answers), where there is none. Think about how things would have gone if you hadn’t asked that question. 😉 Or better yet…. if you had asked, he answered as he did, and you didn’t try to get even, but instead, told him that’s too bad — and flirted with him, so he’d know you were interested. 😎

Please let me know how things go.

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