[Claire87]

Hi April,
Last night I was hanging out with some friends and this guy that I used to date also happened to be hanging out with us. I still have strong feelings for him but I have no idea whether he knows it or not. Anyway, he had a bit to drink last night and was slightly on the tipsy side. I was sitting alone with him in the back seat of our friend’s car when he suddenly grabbed my hand and squeezed it tight and just kept holding it. Then later when we were back at my friend’s house he did the same thing when I was sitting beside him on the couch. Although I’m not 100% certain, I have reason to suspect he might be dating someone else now, and yet he still showed affection to me. I’m just curious, I know it has been said that people’s true feelings come out when they drunk..do you think this could mean that he may still have feelings for me, or am I just having wishful thinking? I’ve been trying so hard to get over him, but now this incident had to happen, and now I have all these old feelings resurfacing again..it’s so difficult, I wish he could just know how much I still care about him.

Thanks, Claire

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He probably does have feelings for you. But…..feelings alone don’t necessarily make a relationship work. Lots of people have feelings for men and women who aren’t appropriate partners. In fact divorced spouses often have strong feelings for their exes, but know that the marriages failed for good reasons. So understand that although there are feelings there, it doesn’t mean he’s going to ask you out or behave differently than he had in the past that led you to a break up.

Get clear in your head on why the two of you broke up and what type of man is going to be your Mr. Right, and then stay focused. He may have been drunk, but you need to keep your own head clear when it comes to investing energy and feelings in men who may or may not be right for you. 😉

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