[hrtbrokn15]

This is kind of a long story, but here it goes. Me and my boyfriend just broke up last week after being together for two years. We are in a long distance relationship at the moment. We broke up becuase we have been fighting alot lately, but over stupid things. We have tried taking breaks before and we always came to the same conclusion, we are so in love with eachother, neither one of us wants us to lose eachother and ultimately, we make eachother happy. I have been in a number of relationships that were not so good and when I finally met my boyfriend, I knew that he was the one. We had such a connection it was unreal. Now, since his therapist that he is seeing becuase he has been having issues with dealing with his dad’s death tells him that if me and him fight all the time, that it is possible for us to genuinely be in love with eachother but it just wont ever work out. I feel so hurt and betrayed because I was the one who told him that he needed to go and talk to someone about his feelings about his dad and now this is what has come of it. I am broken into a million pieces and have tried everything to not think about him or our relationship. I guess my question is, is it really true what his therapist says, that you can be in love with someone but just can’t ever be together, and if so, how do I ever get over this?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

His therapist is right. Love doesn’t conquer all. In fact, you can love people, but be incompatible. Many ex spouses love each other, but understand that their marriages failed for reasons other than love.

If you’re fighting more than you’re not fighting, and you have to take breaks in order to stay together, there’s something more basic that isn’t working here.

The way you get over a break up is to understand why the break up occurred, and to move on and live your life knowing that Mr. Right IS still out there for you, and that this failed relationship was an opportunity for you to learn more about yourself so you can find a better match next time out. 😉

I hope that helps! Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😀

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