[Anonymous]

Ok here we go, at the end of my rope with this guy! We have been dating for about a year and he wigged out on me, started to get distant and quiet. So, I decided to just leave him alone. He was always cancelling on me and not returning calls and messages, so I backed off to the point that I don’t even pick up the phone anymore. Well he will text me random questions here and there and I answer them and I’m polite and thats about it. Days will pass and then the random questions start up again. What does he want? I refuse to be “friends” with any ex, I will say hi if I see then, but I’m NOT their “friend”! He never said he wanted to break up, but his actions have been speaking volumes in the fact that he never wants to see me. Again I ask, what does he wants!? I’m not going to go look for someone else, but I’m not going to pretend that everything is fine between the two of us either. Any help with finding some sort of clarity on this would be wonderful!!
Thank You

[Ask April Masini]

He’s being clear with you — in his own way. Not everyone speaks the same language when it comes to relationships and sometimes clarity to one person is different than clarity to another. His behavior is speaking volumes and you’re wanting a neon sign to confirm what you already know. After a year of dating, he’s not that interested, but too lazy to let go. The ball is entirely in your court.

That said, my suggestion is that you stop returning his erratic messages and start making yourself available for Mr. Right — this guy is not that man for you.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — and join me on Facebook at: [url][/url] and @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😀

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