[jjgirl]

Hello,

i caught my boyfriend still communicating with his ex-girlfriend. And even saw their conversation that he told her HE STILL LOVES HER AND WANT HER BACK IN HIS LIFE. I confronted my boyfriend about it and he says its just nothing. He’s not serious. By the way I caught their conversation via skype because I’ve got this gut feeling before that something’s going wrong and voila!! Ive read their convos, but before their skype conversation, I had already caught him a lot of times, that his ex still calling him and they are even BBM-ing on my face. So right now, I’m having a hard time to trust him. Before he used to hide anything from me, and wont even let me touched his phone. I was supposed to break up with him when i caught him still communicating with his ex and he doesn’t want to. He told me I’m the one he needs, but you know whats running on my mind April, it because his ex is not here, that’s why he’s choosing me and decided to stick with me. What’s painful is when we were on our first month, that girl is still calling him Honey and his boyfriend. Ive asked my boyfriend about it and he says he doesn’t know and he told me they’ve already broke up a long time ago. Right now,my boyfriend asks me to marry him and honestly April I’m not sure. I don’t know if i can trust him again. I’m scared of the pain of getting betrayed a lot of times. shall i take the risks? I asked myself about it and right now, I’m not so sure. He’s working hard right now to earn back my trust and its not working at all. So that’s why I’ve decided to ask an advise to someone else its because we still cannot resolve the issue. I can’t move on from the past and from what he did to me. Do you have any suggestions? Anyway i have confronted his ex-girlfriend before and she just told me negative stuffs about my boyfriend, i think to make me turned off from him and left him. And his ex girlfriend is his relative, his second cousin. Am i just a substitute? Because that’s what I’m seeing on myself. I’m on a very complicated situation right now. I want to go out on this relationship but i can’t, because after all what we’ve been through, we’re still together and I still love him despite everything and somehow I can say is that we learned a lot from our mistakes. My problem here is just i really cannot forget what he did to me that’s why I’m still having doubts on him. My instinct tells me that this time he’s really sure and he really loves me, unlike before that there was this feeling of uneasiness. I felt actually secured right now, Its just that every time I remember the past, i get mad at him. 🙁

Truly yours,

JJgirl </3

[Nate_OK]

You sincerely need to act more violently about this. Have more self-esteem and don’t let him just walk on you like this. He is clearly behaving not properly as someone that wants to get involved (wedding) with you.
Two outcomes:
1. You have a big argument, even if he accepts not to get in touch with his ex gf, you will have this doubt for a long long time and I’m not sure this is the ideal relationship situation
2. you break up with him and move on to something else. You shouldn’t be treated this way.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You may love him, but if you do, you’re in love with someone who is telling his ex-girlfriend he still loves [i]he[/i]r and wants her back. 😕 This isn’t someone who’s exhibiting a commitment to you. Your instinct not to trust him, and frankly, your inability to trust him, are your exit signs. I think you need to move on and understand that loving someone who doesn’t treat you well, isn’t a good way to be in love. You should want to be with someone who is healthy, respectful, has a good character and wants the same things in life that you do. This guy isn’t that person. 😳

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[jjgirl]

Thanks for the prompt response april! I appreciate it! I talked to him and told him I want to break up with him, saying I can’t trust him anymore, and its hurting. He doesn’t want to. He’s asking for another chance and told me I’m tthe one he wants to be with. I’m so confused 🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want to break up with him…. why aren’t you doing it? 😕

You seem to have a pattern of trying to make yourself a victim. You get to be the creator of your own life, and if you want to do something, like break up with someone, you can. It’s really up to you to decide how you live your life. 😉

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