[roark1963]

I have not had to much experience with a woman in a relationship before. I have been seeing Holly for about two months and I really don’t know what I’m doing. I tried to be honest with her and let her know that I’m not this smooth sophisticated , worldly guy. I also told her that I can be insecure and that I would really work on not trying to no what she doing 24/7. She has this rare allergic condition that makes her sick so I want to know if shes ok a lot. today I screwed up and made her uncomfortable by poping round her place when she didn’t answer my text. What can I do to make up for it and prove to her that i’m not so insecure.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Try to understand that since you’ve only been dating for two months, popping by unannounced feels like a privacy violation. If you’d done this after dating for a year or two, it would seem more normal. But because you don’t know each other that well, it’s too soon to do “drive by visits”. It also makes you look a little desperate when you go to her house because she didn’t answer your text quickly enough. 😕 Time for you to chill. 😎 Send her beautiful flowers with a note that explains you’re sorry and that from here on in, you’ll lay back even when you want to see her because you’re crazy about her. And then walk the walk. If she’s sick, ask if there’s anything you can do. If she doesn’t respond or says no, hang back. Don’t show up unannounced and don’t call or text too much — you want her to think that you want to see her — not that you’re desperate or neurotic. Take a breath and enjoy. I hope that helps!

[Eric Morgan]

You need to understand that while worrying about Holly because of her allergy is a good thing, showing up at her house feels more like ‘control’ than ‘care.’ It can make a girl feel like you are keeping tabs on her
Anyway, I don’t think it’s that big of a problem. If he doesn’t respond, you should focus your attention elsewhere. Insecurity is only compromised when your entire day depends on just one person’s reply.

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