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So, I’ve put myself in quite a mess, allow me to explain. So there’s this girl who developed feelings (fact) for me since December 2009 (from now on K), kind of liked her at the time but I think she acted a little 13 year old about it and did nothing about it and by January 2010 things had completely cooled off.

For the past 3 weeks or a month we’re normal friends like we used to be, but a common friend (from now on A who by the way happens to be among K’s BFF list) well we hang out a lot lately, A and K well I’ve known them for 3 years now and at the time I met A I really liked her, she just gave me a good feeling but I had a serious relationship at the time so it was just fun sightseeing.

A is pretty much aware of K’s feelings for me, but like I said we hang out a lot lately, and since last week I started to like A, however I am aware that such journey is likely to end up in failure since there’s the whole friend in between thing and the fact that I really don’t feel that I give A that vibe.

But seems that I can’t control myself, we watch movies at my house got to the movies and theater, work out (I gave her and orchid one day we went exercising), she recommends me books and I read them (I study law but rarely read novels), we have this thing where we have to make each 0pother breakfast for our friday morning class, I gave her a really cool gift (football-soccer related, my perfect girl), and since the orchid i gave her got damaged i told her I’d make her an origami.

Until las week I didn’t know I liked her, yesterday I turned into a 13 year old girl myself and acted like a child with this other guy that’s hitting on A (she doesn’t like him, we discuss those kinds of things), and by night told her I would give her an origami reminiscent of what she inspires me. Discussing with one of my guy friend he told me go for it and I agreed cause I haven’t felt like this in months. Well las night I had a good talk with A until she logged off. Today K passed me a note, it said that last night A logged off but kept talking to her and that A also told she was hiding from me cause she thought i liked her.

Also K kind of showed signs of taking it to next step last weekend and I kind of let her in (conversation nothing Physical, which happened to be the problem with us at the time)

So is this true friends confused by my erratic behavior or could they perhaps be betraying each other (they tend to do that but in this case I highly doubt it)? Two hypothesis: 1.) All that I just told you is true. 2.) There is the twist that K lied to me about her conversation with, maybe she told her “Raul likes me, how interesting, cool or I sort of like him too”, or something like that. The reason for doing that, she still likes me and wants me this weekend.

Finally let me add that I know for a fact that although A knows K had feeling for me, K makes it look wayyy less important to her than it actually is.

P.S: I have Asperger syndrome so this is really hard for me.

[Ask April Masini]

The only confusing part is that you haven’t asked either of the girls out, so none of you are actually dating. You’re stuck in your head about what could be rather than what is. So if you’d like to date one of your friends, then you should ask her out on a date. If she says yes, then you have your answer that she’s interested in you enough to date you. If she says no, then she’s letting you know she just wants to be friends and you’re free to pursue other women or continue to pine or try to win her over.

I hope that helps. 🙂

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