[Yui]

So recently I was waiting at the bus stop minding my own business and this guy came and started talking to me. He was catching the same bus as me and we spoke for the whole time on the bus. I thought we’d really hit it off and really had fun talking to him, and it seemed like he wanted to get to know me since he was asking questions about my course a lot, etc. After I’d gotten off the bus, I’d realized that I’d forgotten to say goodbye, so when I’d gotten home I messaged him on fb saying sorry for not saying goodbye and I was able to talk to him, etc. He replied with an aww thanks message and said he’d show me how great this biscuit thing is and that he’d see me around (since I said I’d never tried it blah blah blah). After that I responded again and he replied with “hehe” which obviously means end of conversation, etc. I assumed he’d run out of things to say or whatever.

Anyway, so I saw him again yesterday before we got on the bus. He was with a friend so I didn’t bother saying anything, and besides I was having a bad day anyway. He sort of came and stood near me while talking to his friend (not sure if he was trying to get me to notice him or if it was completely innocent), but then he asked if I was alright when trying to open a bottle. So I asked if either of them would open it for me, and he reached out for it in particular. When he asked I told him why I was having a bad day, and he patted my shoulder out of comfort (again, I dunno if he’s flirting or being nice). I spoke with him and his friend until the bus came, and throughout the conversation I noticed he was leaning against the wall facing me (I was leaning against the wall and facing him ~ sort of mirrored) and I could’ve sworn we moved closer to each other at some point during the conversation without me noticing. He also went to see if he could buy the biscuits from across the road for me to try, so he’d remembered that…

We got on the bus and I sat by the window by myself, while his friend sat behind me by the window. The guy I like came up last and sat next to me rather than his friend (again, I have no idea whether he just sat next to me because it’s the closest seat or what ~ but I assumed he’d sit next to his friend who he’d clearly known a lot longer). Anyway, we all laughed and got along throughout the bus journey and I got off before both of them. By this point I was thinking, hey maybe he likes me too. I was thinking about asking him if he’d watch a movie with me (his favourite that he wants me to watch) since I don’t like watching them alone anyway.

But then at lunch today (since we both have the day off), he messaged me on facebook saying “oh yeah sorry about yesterday on the bus my friend can be a little……Creepy” ~ Except I didn’t reply for a couple of hours since I was busy. I told him it was fine and that I wasn’t weirded out at all. To be honest, he didn’t come off as creepy at all. This kind of made me hope he was looking for an excuse to talk to me since I thought it was clear I wasn’t creeped out by his friend in the slightest. I also said sorry for the late reply since I was having lunch, and he replied with a three-worded sentence “free lunch haha” since I’d told him I was meeting my friend for lunch and she’d offered to pay the day yesterday. So I asked him if he’d done much today, and he gave me the short reply of “not really, met a few friends that’s about it”, to which I replied that I’d done the opposite and made an unplanned stop off at a friend’s house for a few hours rather than 5mins. Just to hopefully keep a conversation going…

He responded with “haha”.

I swear, it’s the most annoying thing ever when people do this. Honestly, I don’t know if he’s just being nice and chatty because I’m on my own at the bus stop, or if he actually likes me. I mean, he’s chatty to me in person but when it comes to text he gives me short responses. To be fair, they aren’t short and cold responses like some people are known to give, but it doesn’t come across to me that he’s interested in talking to me when it comes to text. Like, is it just because he’s not big on texting? Or does he just not want to talk to me? He’ll keep conversation going in person but not via text. It makes me feel down and frustrated because I can’t tell and I really kinda like this guy.

Help:(

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like he likes you — but it doesn’t sound like he’s flirting with you. At least not from what you’ve described.

If you like him, are you flirting with him so he knows you’re interested? It sounds like he may not be sure how you feel about him, either! 😉 Guys want something to chase after, and if you flirt with him, and then play a little hard to get also, you may get a better response. Try it! 🙂 😎

Let me know how things go….

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[Yui]

I guess, but I don’t understand why he’d not want to keep a conversation going via text if he liked me. Unless he just happens to be a really bad texter or something? Yup I’ve been flirting but I’ll try that too, thanks.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

A guy can like you, and not want to press things forward. Or he can like you, but not like you enough to want to date you. There are a lot of different shades of gray on the “like” spectrum. 😉

I think flirting with him to give him more of a clue where you stand, is a great idea, 😎 and also not putting all your eggs in one basket is a good idea, too. If you keep your options open, you won’t lean so heavily on what may be with him. 🙂

Let me know how things go!

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

Hey — how’s the flirting going? Any prospects or good experiences to report?

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