I have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years. We are both 22, and are “high school sweethearts”. Most of the time I have no doubts about our relationship and future: we both have so much fun together, have the same values, want the same things out of life, etc. We want to be together forever, and have discussed things like marriage and children (children several years away however) many times.
The issue: Money and jobs are becoming an increasing problem and fight between us. Right now we both live at home with our parents: I am still a student who will complete my second degree next year, and he graduated 1 year ago. I currently work two part time jobs and go to school full time for a degree in a high demand career field. And Him? He’s been working part time retail for a year. His college degree does not seem to be landing him a job anytime soon, and he cannot go back to school because he is SO in debt from the first degree. I am getting frustrated, and more and more taking it out on him. I want to start our lives together when I graduate: I will have the money to move out of my parents, invest in a home, save for a family, etc. But it seems like he will not, and despite saying he is trying hard it just never seems to work out for him for finding a well paying job or making use of his degree.
I want to be with him, but I am scared for our future. We are only 22, so does that mean I should wait it out? People keep telling me there are many years ahead for him to land a job, save for a future, etc. But what if it never works out? More and more I am resenting him because I keep imagining several years into the future and imagining what if it’s the same situation when we’re trying to move in together, trying to start a family…I do not want to be supporting both of us forever. Am I overreacting and worrying too much about years away when in reality “anything could happen”? Or should I be cutting him lose now because we are at such different stages?
