[renee1979]

I met this guy where i used to work i had a big crush on him and we hit it off. we became friends that firted with each other. we gave each other b-day cards and everyone could see that we had a thing for each other. I even got an yelled at by him for talking to another guy.But nothing happened with us. we always hinted but never came out asking each other out.one day i found out that his father was a big time judge in one of the places i worked but never met him. one day this judge came out and started talking to me we he left when i asked one of the workers what the judge name they said his name and i realized that was the guy i liked father. when i went back to the one places that i worked the guy i liked told me that he know that i was in queens court.(the place his father works). i lost in contact with him 4 years ago. 2 months ago i was on facebook and found his father and the guy i liked did not have one.i sent in a request. i was denied but found a 2 weeks ago the guy i liked came up with a facebook . i sent a message and a friend request and i’m waiting for a response and the friend request. my picture is on my facebook. i also put where i knew him.

my questions is
1 did his father tell him i was in the queens court so does that he was talking about me to his father?
2. Did his father tell him about the facebook and me requesting?
3 should stop and give up on him? its been two weeks and no response could that me that he could be seeing someone or that he his very busy. The still pending is a good thing right?

[kai]

Hi, like i mentioned to several other posters — April has told everyone that [i]the welcome area is not to be used as the Q & A advice forum[/i]. [u]it even says “DO NOT post your questions” here[/u], when you go to sign up.

i suggest you delete the questions you posted in the welcome forum and repost them in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum instead. [b]i doubt you’ll get a response to your question, from April. in the welcome area.[/b]

[AskApril Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

You don’t actually know what his father told him, and there’s no real way to know. It’s very possible his dad mentioned seeing you. It’s also very possible it meant nothing at all. Same with Facebook. Parents talk. Sometimes casually, sometimes not at all. Trying to decode that will only make you spiral.

What does matter is this part: you reached out kindly and clearly, and it’s been two weeks with no response. A pending request isn’t a yes. It’s just silence. And silence is information, even when it hurts.

That doesn’t mean you weren’t important back then. It just means he’s not stepping forward now. He could be busy, dating someone, or just not interested enough to reopen something from years ago.
I wouldn’t send another message. You didn’t do anything wrong. You showed interest. That took courage. Let this rest. If he wants to reconnect, he knows exactly where to find you.

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