[notguilty1001]

Hi, am new to this website.

I have a female friend whom I’ve become very close to this year. We’re both very busy, generally spend alot of time apart without much contact. Something has changed over the last couple of months though. It seems like any time we’re apart, her behavior becomes erratic, very different. We just recently spent three weeks apart without any contact. She sent me an email, filled with grammatical and spelling errors, very different than her usual cogency, and left a message on voicemail expressing an almost desperate, fervent desire for me to contact her.

I emailed her, and her response was very positive, upbeat, and it seemed like she was back to her old self.

There has been some major flirtation between us this year and her son told me that she feels a… “very strong connection” to me. Do you think the above indicates she was missing me as a friend or that she’s thinking about me on a different level? For the record, she’s very difficult to read, tends to hide her emotions, and would never confess to missing me if I just flat out asked her.

Thank you.

[Ask April Masini]

First of all, I’m assuming you’re a guy, so I hope that’s right!

Second of all it sounds like there are a couple of things going on here. Her erratic behavior may indicate some kind of imbalance or drama or trauma going on in her life. Although you’ve been friends for a year, you admit you’ve spent a lot of time apart without much contact, so you may not know her all that well in spite of the year’s time you’ve known her. She may have some issues you’re only just beginning to see the tip of.

As far as her liking you as more than a friend, it’s entirely possible that that’s true, as well as the above. However, just because she may feel “a very strong connection” to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean a love connection.

Get to know her more on all levels and find out if she’s stable — and girlfriend material! 🙂

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