I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for over half a year now, and recently it’s been starting to bother me how many women he’s been with. We are both still in college, but he is 3 years older than me.
He had a phase in his life where he became depressed and partook in risky sexual behavior. As a college student myself, I understand that guys and girls alike go “wild” at this age, especially in college, but somehow it’s extremely difficult for me to get over how many girls he’s been with. The numbers aren’t outrageously high, but high enough for me to be worried. He’s had over a dozen “dancefloor hookups” and has had two hookups that led to sex. And a lot of ex-girlfriends. The total number of women he’s been with is at least 24, whereas for me it’s been about 7. Another reason I’m worried is because most of my male friends in college aren’t the “party-type” and I definitely did not expect to be dating someone like that. Ever since we’ve started going out, though, he’s changed and has been extremely loyal. He said he finally wants to “settle down”.
I know that the chances we will stay together after college are low, but I feel like if I can’t get past this our relationship will never stand a chance at all. But what can I do, when the last thing I think about at night and the first thing I think about when I wake up is an image of him with another woman?
