[Needhelp18]

There is this girl I like that flirted with me when She had a boyfriend. But then She broke up with him and we were flirting and I basically told her I liked her And she said you are dropping mad hints and then ignored me for a few days. When we got back to school I lost a bet to her and I had to make her cookies and I did . She took a picture of the cookies and said these are the bomb, thanks and sent it to me on snapchat. Then sent a Snapchat of a cookie eatin into a heart shape and said I love you too. I asked if she meant to send that and she sent back yeah with an ok emoji hand and ❤❤❤. After we talked for a little bit i Asked if she wanted to do something this weekend and she said yeah that would be fun but we have to be cautious because of her parents. Then ignored me the next day. What is going on? Does she like me? What should I do?

[AskApril Masini]

How old are you both?

[Needhelp18]

I’m 18 she is 16

[AskApril Masini]

Got it. Thanks for the information. It seems like she does like you. Why not ask her to go to the movies or grab coffee to get to know her a little better? 🙂

[Needhelp18]

Ok thanks

[AskApril Masini]

You’re very welcome. 🙂

[Needhelp18]

After that we talked for a little bit and I Asked if she wanted to do something this week and she said yeah that would be fun but we have to be cautious because of her parents. Then ignored me the next day. That night we were texting and I Asked why we had to be cautious and she said that her parents don’t like her going off with people especially boys. And we talked and made plans for next Sunday to do something at the mall. Then the next day at school she ignored me again. Then yesterday we talked for a little bit and then I went to a movie and I sent her a Snapchat if a picture of a preview saying “wish you were here with a winky face emoji” and she opened it but didn’t respond. What is going on? What should I do?

[AskApril Masini]

I think that she’s young and her parents don’t want her to date. I think you should find someone who’s a little older and who is allowed to date, since that’s what you want to do. 😉

[Needhelp18]

But she had a boyfriend that she broke up with that her parents knew about. So it’s not like she can’t date. Her parents may not be crazy about it but it’s not like she can’t date. Could she just be toying with me?

[AskApril Masini]

I don’t think she’s maliciously toying with you. But I think she’s conflicted, and I do think the pressure she mentioned getting from her parents is more real than you’re imagining it to be.

Regardless, you can continue to flirt with her and ask her out, but also set your sights on other young women, as well. You may find someone who’s more interested and ready to date in a way that she isn’t. 😉

[Sally]

Her behavior is all over the place, and that kind of push-pull can mess with your head fast.
It does sound like she likes the attention and the flirting. The cookies, the heart, the I love you stuff… that’s not nothing. But liking attention isn’t the same as being ready for something real. Ignoring you after getting close usually means she’s unsure, scared, or just not ready to follow through.

Try not to chase the highs and lows. If she really wanted to hang out, you wouldn’t be left guessing this much. I’d slow it down. Be friendly, but stop reading into mixed signals. If she wants more, she’ll make it clear. And if she doesn’t, you deserve someone who doesn’t keep you hanging like this.

[Serena Vale]

She likes the attention, but she doesn’t know what she wants.
Her actions are hot-and-cold, and that usually means confusion, not commitment.

If a girl likes you and is ready, she won’t keep disappearing.
Interest looks consistent.

You don’t need to chase or overthink this. Ask her out one more time clearly.
If she dodges, ignores, or stays vague again, take that as your answer and step back.

Don’t sit around waiting for someone who isn’t meeting you halfway.
Keep your options open and focus on girls who are clear, present, and excited to see you.

[Tara]

She does not like you the way you want her to, and you’re embarrassing yourself by trying to turn mixed signals into meaning. This girl flirts for attention, not intention. She flirted while she had a boyfriend because she likes validation, not because she respected anyone involved. She amped things up after the breakup because you were convenient emotional entertainment, then vanished the moment you showed actual interest because that requires accountability. The cookies, the hearts, the “I love you” that’s all performative nonsense meant to keep you hooked, not a promise of anything real. Ignoring you repeatedly is not confusion; it’s her keeping you on standby while she decides how much attention she wants from you that day. If she liked you, you wouldn’t be guessing, waiting, or chasing scraps of Snapchat emojis like they’re signals from God.

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