[Peaceandlove]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and today I get a text from her saying Randy if you want us to stay to together you need to be more sexual. I am confused! All of a sudden she is saying if you want us to be together you need to be more sexual?? I am not sure if I should be insulted or I should be thankful she is mentioning it to me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

How old are you both?

How often do you have sex?

What’s your sex life like, in your opinion?

[Peaceandlove]

I am 25 and she is 33. Ideally I would love to have sex everyday but she works alot so sex does not come around as much as we would like. As a matter of fact we haven’t even had sex in over a month! Recently she came over to my place and said I am not feeling to well but I wouldn’t mind some oral so I gave her oral and she went to bed and we didn’t even share the bed together I ended up taking the couch because she said she wasn’t feeling well. She did however say before she went to bed we can have fun in the morning needless to say that never happened because she overslept and had to go to work. Recently she called me on Friday afternoon asking if I was ” free” which is usually code work for sex and I told her I was working she said nevermind you are working forget it. I was upset but when I got off I said darling I am ” free” and she said to me chat with you later. I haven’t even spoken to her since Friday and for someone who wanted to chat with me later she has not made any effort or for someone who wants me to be sexual she isn’t making any effort when I try to be fulfill her desires.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I understand that over the last month you’ve had problems in the bedroom, but what changed from the first month to the sixth month of your relationship? Was sex always a problem? Was it great at first? Or has it always been like this?

[Peaceandlove]

We never really had problems in the sex months since we have dated occasionally she wanted me to put on a strap on but to be honest I was never into that and sure she got annoyed but it was never a problem. The real problem now is her coldness towards me. Ever since she brought that up she has been very,very cold towards me! Asking if I am ” free” at odd times when she assumes I am off and never considering I do work and I am assuming she is upset that I am not free when she wants me to be but work is something I cannot help. Like I said Friday afternoon she asked if I was ” free” but she assumed I was off and I said I am working and she said forget it nevermind. I call her back when I get off again trying to fulfill her desires and be a lovely boyfriend and she blows me off and says chat with you later. We have not spoken since Friday and she hasn’t even attempted to call me or anything.

Again I want to be a good boyfriend and fulfill her desires but with an attitude like chat with you later it is kinda rude. My real question is now should I even bother calling her or just wait for her to call me? I want to fulfill her desires and be more sexual but again her attitude towards me Friday was uncalled for when all I said was I am free and she makes a snide remark chat with you later and never did even bother calling me back. Please help me April. What should I do? Wait or call her? I am torn and upset.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]We never really had problems in the sex months since we have dated….[/quote]

I don’t think you’re reading the situation correctly if you think there were no problems in the relationship and then suddenly, out of the blue, she texts you that she wants you to be more sexual — and then she cools considerably towards you. It sounds like something’s been going on that you haven’t picked up on. It sounds like the two of you may be on completely different pages. She wants sex with strap on toys and you want to be a good boyfriend. 😕 It sounds like you’re not well matched for each other, and she’s getting annoyed because she can’t turn you into someone she wants you to be, and you can’t get her to be the girlfriend you want her to be.

If you want to try and communicate with her on a deeper level, you might be able to find out more about who she really is and what’s really going on with her and between the two of you, but my instinct tells me she’s going to move on and find someone who’s more fitting to her needs, and you’ll be a lot happier with someone who wants you and thinks you ARE the best boyfriend in the world. 😉

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