[Anonymous]

A girl I was seeing for about 2 months blew me off. It may have been somewhat unclear that our plans were dead set but nonetheless, when I called her to ask, she did not reply until the day after. We had slept together 7 times prior to this. I took her to do interesting and cool “date” activities; both cultural/sophisticated and not so cultural/sophisticated (aka, out to bars and movie at my place). When she responded back to me in text form, I wrote back something which looking back could have been interpretted as either not really caring or a bit rude depending on the tone it was read with (basically – “whatever, let me know when your free so I don’t have to bother you about it”). Of course, she hasn’t responded since. A week later, I texted her to let her know that I was going to a show with friends in a few days if she wanted to come along. Again, no response. I am a few years older and she’s only 22 so it seems her generation is more comfortable texting than calling. Is this relationship over? Should I call or text her again? Should I give her an ultimatum? In my mind, the fact that she hasn’t responded in 1.5wks means I should move on. Afterall, I am pretty sure I am a catch and there are many girls out there. But, I did like her and hate to quit someone whom I thought I had a connection with.

[Ask April Masini]

The wording of your text to her is definitely insulting, and she may have decided she deserves better than what you offered and moved on. If you didn’t mean what you texted, then you can apologize and adjust your behavior to ask her out in a way that makes her feel valued rather than devalued. I know you think you’re a catch, but judging from her behavior, she thinks the same of herself! 😆

Always err on the side of kindness and respect, and if you found you’ve made a mistake, correct it!

If after you’ve apologized and asked her out again in a way that makes her feel special, and she still doesn’t respond, then I think it’s time for you to move on. But for now, do some damage control.

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