[Grl28]

Hi April,

I’m a big fan and I just recently got your book. I am still kind of confused on something though and want to get your opinion. Do you think there are single guys out there that are really just not looking for/not ready for a relationship (no matter how great the girl is or how well a girl follows the guidelines)? Or are all single guys always secretly looking for “the one” whether they claim they are not looking for anything serious?

Sincerely,

Really want to know

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Yes! There are most definitely (good) guys who are just not ready to be in a relationship. Some of the reasons are that they may not feel like they’re at [i]the age[/i] they want to be at when they want to be serious; they may not be at the [i]career point[/i] they want to be at when they want to be committed. Some men feel that they want to play the field and enjoy being single because they realize that they’ll be giving that up if they get into a monogamous relationship and they’re not ready to give that up. 😀

I hope that helps.

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[Grl28]

Thank you! That is what I thought and hoped. It just seems surprising to me that some guys will pass up a great opportunity and a perfectly good girl for something like career. I guess then my question is what do you say about guys who are in their thirties and have awesome career and never been married married and no kids? What’s the hold up?

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You have to look at things from other peoples’ points of view. Just because [i]you[/i] think someone is a great girl doesn’t mean a guy in his 30s with a great career WANTS a great girl. For all you know, he’s hoping to make his first $10 million by the time he’s 40 and [i]that’s[/i] his priority — not a relationship. Or maybe he really values his freedom above having a committed relationship. Or maybe he sees himself settling down when he’s 40 and he’s sticking to that plan. People are interesting because they have different life goals and dreams. The trick is to know what YOU want and not waste time with men who aren’t compatible because they’re on a different track. 😀

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