[brom52312]

I need relationship advice. So I blocked my ex of facebook two years ago and unblocked him about a year ago. Two week ago he added me and we started talking, he offered to meet the following week. We met up and ended up having an 8 hour long conversation that was just amazing, unlike anything we’ve ever had before but then he came back to my place and we had sex. The next morning I had to leave for work but he still stayed and talk for a bit before he left. Then a couple days later was my birthday, he wished me a happy birthday and I offered him to come to my birthday diner and/or after my place. I basically texted him to tell him i wanted sex as a birthday gift because we use to have such a bad sexual relationship before but now it just got really amazing! He told me that he could think of something fun (sex wise) and asked what time the diner was at. I then replied saying that just in case he was wondering, one doesn’t depend on the other (like he doesn’t have to come to diner to come to my place after). But then I ended up telling him it was an all girls diner in the end and later that night he texted me ‘hi’ but I told him I was having a lot of fun with my friends so maybe we should postpone to the weekend. Then I went out two days later and messaged him at midnight asking if he’d be up later tonight and he said maybe 😉 and we ended up meeting at my place around 2 and he spent the night. Again, the next morning I had to leave early for work and I asked him if I would see him again before he leaves on holiday (2 days later) and he said of course, just call me. But since I felt like I was calling all the shots, I ended up not calling him and waited for him to do it but he never did and now he just left on holiday to Europe for 2 weeks. Did I myself turn this into an only sex relationship? Is there any way he might want more? What can I do to turn this into something more? I feel like the first time we dated he had to put in a lot of effort and now I just slept with him on the first night so he might feel like he doesn’t have to work for it anymore and that I’m always there. What do you think?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Did I myself turn this into an only sex relationship? [/quote]

Yes.

[quote]Is there any way he might want more? [/quote]

It doesn’t really sound like it.

[quote]What can I do to turn this into something more? [/quote]

If you want a relationship that isn’t just sex, then you should stop offering sex a la carte and booty calls

[quote]I feel like the first time we dated he had to put in a lot of effort and now I just slept with him on the first night so he might feel like he doesn’t have to work for it anymore and that I’m always there. What do you think?[/quote]

I think that if you want a relationship, you should act like it because he may have gotten the wrong idea based on your behavior. 😕 I also think you should wait and see if he wants to date you when he returns from his vacation. 😉

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