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To make a long story short I meet a guy a few years back in the military. We had sex once he wanted a relationship I didn’t and we went on our separate ways. Well a few months ago we began chatting on fb. He has been deployed for a year now and we began dating a few months. Well we talk about everything but lately he has been asking me for lots of nudes at first I did not mind but then it became annoying. So I made up a game to send him a pic a day of random stuff some sexy some not to smooth out the days I don’t feel like taking pics. He has also been talking a lot about sex I don’t mind but it seems to dominate our convos. I asked him is this horny with all the girls he’s with he said no and got really annoyed. He said he don’t like mindless questions and said that’s the reason he broke up with his last gf. Should I be concerned or flattered?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Help me out a little: When you say that you’ve been dating — have you actually been out on any dates? You said he’s been deployed for a year, but you’ve been dating for a few months. Or is this an online-only relationship?

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[quote=”April Masini”]Help me out a little: When you say that you’ve been dating — have you actually been out on any dates? You said he’s been deployed for a year, but you’ve been dating for a few months. Or is this an online-only relationship?[/quote]

Well me meet a few years back and then reconncected via facebook. We were going to wait to start dating until he got back but things just sort of happened and all of our friends call us bf/gf anyway so we were just ok well I guess it really does not matter anyway what the status is because it feels like a relationship anyway. So to answer you question yes he comes home in a week and we have been dating for 4 out of the 8 mo he has been deployed

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sorry — I’m still confused. You said that you’ve gone on dates with him for four of the eight months he’s been deployed. How is that possible?

It really sounds like the two of you dated briefly once in the past, and more recently have been connecting online. I don’t think you’re actually dating, although you appear to say you are. ❓ He’s asking for nude photos of you, and wants to talk about sex a lot, and you’re wondering what this all means.

Here’s what’s going on. He’s deployed and he’s lonely and wants to have sex, but probably isn’t — so he’s hooked up with you as an online relationship and he’s wanting sexy pictures and talk to satisfy his needs the best he can. You may not be the only one he’s doing this with.

Whether or not you should be concerned or flattered is less important than whether or not you’re investing a lot of energy and time in someone you haven’t really had a single in person date with yet….

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