It’s not wrong for you to want to break a pattern that isn’t working for you any more. In fact, it’s healthy. If you don’t, you’re just going to get angrier and angrier that you’re doing what you don’t want to be doing, and instead of being mad at yourself, which is what you should be doing, you’re going to project your anger onto him. So, yes, stop being the one to do the calling and the texting, and let him starting picking up the lead by making space for him to do so. 😉
The trick for you is going to be to see how he behaves with this new situation, and if he doesn’t do what you want him to do when you want him to do it, watch your own behavior. You’ve started a new phase in your life, and it’s normal to reconsider your relationships, which is what you’re doing now. What worked for you for the last three years, may not fit in with the way you see yourself now that you’re in a new city in graduate school. You’re evolving, personally, and you’re checking the people in your life to see where they fit in with this version of you.
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