[ladya12345]

I have been dating this guy for about 5 months now. We had an amazing connection and everything was going wonderful. We don’t get to see each other often because we live a ways apart and work long hours. Despite this, we always communicated daily and always kept things positive. We had a talk about 5 weeks ago and agreed that our feeling for each other were very strong and we would keep trying to make things work. Everything was still going great until about 3 weeks ago. He started to become more distant and we talk less and less. Now he hardly texts me at all unless I text him first. I don’t know what to make of it. I know he is going through a lot at work but he used to talk to me about those things and he doesn’t really anymore. Our last date, a couple weeks ago, he apologized for being distant and acted like everything was fine but since then it has gotten worse.

I don’t know if I am making too much of it or if I should really be worried. I don’t think he has met anyone else but at this point I really don’t know what to think!

Should I back off and give him some space? Am I overthinking everything?

[AskApril Masini]

It sounds like he’s become less interested in you than he used to be. 😳 There are a couple of things you can do, however. First of all, when you do have contact with him, don’t have “the talk” or even hint at it. Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine that he’s either overwhelmed with work, has met someone else, or has just lost interest — and figure out what he’d want to see and hear in order to get re-interested in you! 😎 Second, give him the space you need to see how interested he actually is. If you keep calling and texting him, it doesn’t give him a chance to contact you himself (or not) and it also doesn’t give him a chance to really miss you. 😉

See if that sounds like a good plan — and let me know what you think.

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[ladya12345]

Thank you for the advice! I am going to back off and give him some space and see what happens. We had such an amazing connection that I would be heartbroken if he isn’t interested anymore but maybe that is it?? I am really hoping that it is just him being overwhelmed and maybe comfortable enough with our relationship not to need daily communication.

I will try my hardest to just back off and let you know how it goes!

[AskApril Masini]

You know, sometimes it’s not you — it’s just not the right time, or you’re not compatible, and I know you feel like you may be heartbroken if he doesn’t “show up” the way you want him to, but it’s much better to know sooner than later if something isn’t going to work out so you can move on. 😉 I think your plan to back off and see what he does without your making it easy for him, is a good one.

Let me know how things go.

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