We both live in the UK and are in our mid twenties. I’ve been seeing this guy for about a month, we have gone on about 5 or 6 dates and kissed but nothing more. We met back in January when I went to view his flat which he was moving out of, and we go on really well
We were texting and eventually met up about a month ago. The reason he was moving out was because he was hoping to move to Australia in a few months (and was going to live back at home in the meantime as his parents are in the same city)
I always knew this was a possibility. When we met up, he said that he wasn’t sure what his plans were and that he was deciding what to do but not booked anything. He isnt that happy in his current job and I think this has alot to do with it
Anyways he text me last night to say that he had had a long chat with his parents and that he has decided he was going to book flights for a few months time. I always knew this was a big possibility when i started seeing him – its just that nothing had been decided. We got on really well and I do really like him
I said ‘I guess this was always what you wanted to do, and that obviously i’m a little sad. I don’t know if you want to see me again, but I really like spending time with you.’ I also said that I was really happy for his but that I would like to talk to him, but understand he wanted to let me know his decision as he had only decided over the weekend
He replied and said he didn’t/ doesn’t want to mess me around but thought its something he needed to do for himself – which I understand because I know this was his original plan. He said we would definetely meet though and talk about it, that he is sorry and asked if i’m ok
I replied and said I knew the australia thing was a big possibility and how he is feeling about being here. And that he barely knows me. Said I’d like to meet and talk but we don’t have to. I also told him not to apologise since this is something hes been wanting to do and that I was just someone he met randomly few months ago
Anyways – sorry for the very long post
I guess I’m just really upset. Haven’t heard back since the above message but it was very late. I didn’t sleep at all last night and feel really unwell
Would appreciate any advice. I really want to see him again even just to talk, but just scared I’ll get more upset
(Also I only recently came out a long term relationship 4 years, I split up with my ex in January just after i met this guy. However, there was lots of issues with the relationship and we were long distance 6 hours since Aug.. so the two things are really separate. I’ve only met this guy like 6/7 times)
Thankyou
