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Head Games or Testing the Waters??

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    J2theLo
    Member #151,686

    Dear April,

    I’ve been seeing a man that for three months now. We both have fallen in love and spend a vast majority of our time together. Also, we both have been married previously once before so, we both understand the outcomes of marriage.

    Recently within the past week, he has brought up the ‘ Marriage’ issue while generally speaking. I know that, this is early in the relationship therefore, I brushed it off both times as him ‘ joking’ or ‘testing the waters.’

    The first instance was, I had cooked for him just because and he said that ‘ He loved it.’ ‘It was beautiful and that he should propose.’ I took the comment like a grain of salt and said nothing.

    The second time was just days ago as I was looking at him admiring him. He asked, ‘ Do you have a question? Do you want something? Do you want to get married?’ I said, ‘ No, No and maybe.’

    I realize that men will say almost anything at times therefore, I am not sure if he is truly joking ie@ Head Games OR is he testing the waters to see where my thoughts are on the issue. Maybe both. What is your opinion?? Thank You.

    #23447

    He’s testing the waters. ๐Ÿ˜€

    #23285
    J2theLo
    Member #151,686

    Thank You!! I wasn’t quite sure but, this is as I thought ๐Ÿ˜€

    #23489

    A real proposal comes with a ring. He knows that. So do you! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    #23494
    J2theLo
    Member #151,686

    Yes I do. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Quite frankly, the idea of getting married again would be nice but, yes there is always a BUT. I am scared to death of marriage again. Scared of failure. I know this is something I need to work on as, there are a lot of great marriages out there. However, I am just scared.

    Once again, I heard over the weekend from his friends jokingly saying to myself..’ His future Fiancee.’ Or.. ‘ Mrs. XXXX’ Like I said, the idea is nice but, I am scared to death.

    I was scared of getting into the dating field..got over that. Scared of getting into a relationship..got over that. Scared of falling in love…got over that. Now, the ‘ M’ word is something I am needing time on. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    #23299

    If you’re not sure, then don’t. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Marriage is a very big commitment, and it really requires both people to be completely sure of what they want, to be successful. You have control of yourself, and if you need things to go slower, you can slow it all down.

    It’s really great that you’re honest with yourself about what you do and don’t want — as well as what you’re uncertain about. Self knowledge is the first step to being able to be in a successful relationship. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Let me know how things go, if you would be kind enough to send me a video of yourself talking about the advice you got here, from me, I’d be very grateful. You can send it to [email protected]. ๐Ÿ˜€

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